Did you ever have anyone in your life where you felt like you could never please because they were so unhappy with their own life? Every time you saw them, they were talking badly about people, always commenting on other people’s lives that you couldn’t help but wonder what they said about you the second you walked away?
The worst part about all of this, is this person has a really great life. They are financially secure, have healthy children, travel, live in nice places but still just can’t be happy for anyone else. After so many times of trying to please them, I just stopped trying and I feel like that has hurt someone who means a lot to me.
So at what point do two wrongs make a right? At what point do you just suck it up and be the bigger person even though you find it so exhausting to be supportive of a person who just isn’t particular nice or supportive of you? When do you swallow your pride and let it go because the person who is stuck in the middle asks you to?
I got together with some girlfriends over the weekend and starting talking about it. One of my friends doesn’t think I should put in the effort anymore. She started to list how I ran the NYC marathon, never received a call or text. My dad was in Sloan Kettering for 34 days, not one phone call or text, I turned 40 in August, not one phone call, not one text and not even a card. So my point once again is, at what point do you just say, I no longer care?
I can’t help but feel bad for the person who I love so much that is upset about the whole situation because they don’t deserve it. They just want everyone to be happy and get along but ultimately that is all I have ever wanted. There is nothing more I want for everyone around me to be happy but some people aren’t capable of that because they have never put the time and effort into trying to be. It is no longer my job to try and please someone who is unable to be pleased. So say two wrongs don’t make a right but what I have to say is you give what you get and I am over giving.
